Have Faith in Yourself?

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I was scrolling mindlessly through Instagram (is there any other way?), when I saw a quote that caught my eye:

“Have faith in yourself.”

This way of thinking has been thrown in my face since my Disney Channel-watching days. “Believe in yourself.” Such a humanistic, prideful approach to life.

It’s really quite simple: Anything I have accomplished, is because God did it through me. The air in our lungs, our legs to walk, our hands to touch, our voice to speak, our brains to think: it’s all because of Him. Everything is by His Grace.

Have faith in myself? You mean, me? This sinner? This weak, emotional wreck? I’m so glad I don’t have to have faith in my fickle little self. I have a God who already has my future all written out. I have a God that loves me more than any human could, and who wants the absolute best for me. I have a God who created the entire universe!

So when you’re facing a challenge of any kind–think of it this way:

I can be strong, because God is strengthening me.

I can be brave, because God is with me and will help me.

I can do this, because God is for me.

I will get through this, because God is in control.

Refocus. Less me, more God. It’s such a freeing feeling knowing, I don’t have to have it all planned out. Because, God already does.

I AM NOT IN CONTROL. God is. And “it is well with my soul.”

Things going awesome? That’s because of God, not you. He empowered you to accomplish what you’ve done. All blessings flow from Him.

Things rough right now? That’s because God is refining you, drawing Him closer to you, and strengthening your faith in Him. These trials prevent us from “believing in ourselves” when things go awesome again.

So no more of this, “have faith in yo-self” crapola. Shift your thinking to God. All because of Him. All Glory to Him. Make Him the center of each step you take. Don’t let Him be an after thought, just when you need help getting out of your mess.

“Have faith in God.”

Youthful Confidence

Recently, my heart has been stirred towards the topic of confidence.  I feel it is a topic of vital importance this day and age.  So let’s get this conversation started, shall we?

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Our society tells us, there’s one way to look. One body type. One type of nose. One height. One beautiful. Then society tells us–“It’s okay if you don’t fit that one mold! There’s a surgery for that.” Basically–you’re not normal if you don’t look a certain way, but you can “fix” these things.

Um, no.

I’m so thankful I have the Lord in my life.  God is a Master Artist. The Creator. And He LOVES His creation. Through His strength and love, I can have confidence. Youthful confidence. A kick off your shoes, run around a field, kind of confidence. A joyful confidence that radiates from the inside, out! He made me and He loves me.

I asked 3 darling women, “How do you embrace confidence?”I know it to be so encouraging hearing Godly insight and wisdom, taken from people’s lives and stories. So here are their answers.


Priska 

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I didn’t steal this from Pinterest, but it may sound like it at first:

The way I embrace confidence is by embracing God.

Something I feel God has been downloading on me lately is that godly confidence is so much greater than self-confidence.  The struggle of “Am I pretty enough?” and “Am I worthy enough?” and “Are my body dimensions ‘right’?” are all cultural questions because culture believes self reigns supreme.

But from a godly perspective, God reigns supreme, so the place we put our confidence should be in Him.

There’s a verse that has been so present in my life lately.  Here’s the summary:

In my weakness, He is strong. (2 Corinthians 12:9)

So rather than “I’m confident that I’m good enough to enjoy life, be blessed, be a blessing”, instead I want to say, “I’m confident that GOD is good enough for me to enjoy life, be blessed, and be a blessing.”  I’m confident in His power at work through me that even in my weakness, He is strong.  Even on days I don’t like what I see in the mirror, He is good.  Even on days I look in the mirror and think, “I’m allllll that!”, He is good.  Just as good as days I don’t like my image.  THAT, to me, is a stable confidence.  It isn’t swayed by emotions or body dysmorphia or my own performance.  It’s a strong and steady confidence.

Personally, my waist line has grown and shrunk…several times over.  A few years ago, I was obsessed with working out – I spent 8 hours each week at the gym.  I was the skinniest, fittest, strongest I’d ever been.  But when I looked in the mirror, I was the least confident I’d ever been.  I was obsessed with my physicality because I was so ill confident that I was worthy of love.  Nowadays, I work out a healthy amount, and I’m also heavier than I was back then.  But when I look in the mirror, I see someone that God gave His Son to die for.  I see someone worthy of love.  I see someone who should be confident that my worth will never fade with time, age, wrinkles or cellulite.  I’m confident I’m worthy, because God called me worthy.


Sophie

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Well in my opinion, I don’t feel confident when I rely or depend on myself. The way I feel confident is when I rely on the Lord and know that what I am and who I am is a child of God and that’s where my beauty comes from.

When I look at my outward appearance, I don’t feel confident or beautiful most of the times. But when I am reminded about how I am fearfully and wonderfully made by the one who created the entire Universe, that’s when I feel confident.

I embrace confidence by embracing myself for who I am and how God created me. The times when I feel the least confident is when I try to be something I’m not.  When I try too hard to fit in or try too hard to look “beautiful” to cater to or impress a guy I like, I don’t end up feeling confident.  But when I embrace who I am (which is an awkward, quirky person who loves Jesus) that’s when I feel the most confident.

There are many prettier pictures of me posing for a camera in good lighting to make me look beautiful, but I chose this picture because this picture was taken when I decided to fully be myself and make a pine tree crown and pose next to a Christmas tree because I love nature and I love Christmas.  It’s a picture that shows off me as who I am and it shows my personality instead of just showing off another posed “pretty” picture.


Meaghan

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Embracing confidence to me is only possible when I truly embrace my identity in Jesus Christ.  It’s who He says that I am – forgiven, worthy, redeemed, wanted, and lovely – that gives me the confidence to face each day with a healthy balance of self-love and humility.  Why both? Because embracing your confidence is not screaming “I AM BEAUTIFUL” at the world; instead, it’s a gentle whisper in the ear of those you encounter saying, “I’m lovely, and so are you.” ❤

 

 

 

 


Thankful for the beautiful wisdom these women have shared, and I pray you are blessed and encouraged!

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The Start

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Welcome to The Young Wife. My name is Julia and I’m beyond excited to be launching this blog! I’ve blogged at various times in my life, but this is the first time I have a specific vision and purpose.  Before you read any further, please check out the About  page to get to know me a little better.

I want this blog to be a fun stop at the end of a long work day, an interesting place to browse while you’re laying on the beach, a resource of sorts for people to gain cooking and home advice, a girly companion alongside tea and a mud mask.

I am The Young Wife, and with that, this blog is simply me.  I am not boxed into one category. I like to sing, cook, write, photograph, travel, eat, go outside, draw, and the list goes on. Therefore, this blog is a one stop shop.

No matter how old you are, we all are trying to figure this thing out called “adulting.” There is no tried and true recipe for it.  You just have to learn how to season it with adventure as life happens to you.

I am so excited to start sharing my heart ramblings and advice with you all. Feel free to add this blog to your nightly routine of Netflix binging and Spotify jamming. I hope to be posting regularly, so check back often.

Chat with you soon!

~Julia

P.s. When I was little, whenever I’d help my dad cook brunch, he always called me Julia Child. I like that.

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