“You’re too sensitive.”
Words I’ve heard my whole life and believed. Words I’ve let steer my view of sensitivity as a flaw. A disadvantage.
Yet, God has been teaching me—not only is it not a flaw to be sensitive, it is a gift. It is not a weakness, it is an opportunity.
For the sensitive person, words are very impactful. Either refreshingly encouraging or devestatingly hurtful. I used to think the power of words over me was a negative trait. Recently, however, God has revealed just the opposite to me. I read the book of James a couple times in the past month. One of the overarching themes is…words. Yup. Taming the tongue (See James 3). The Bible has a lot to say about it. Words are a big deal to God. And so, it’s okay if words are a big deal to me. Because what we say is so important.
Proverbs 15:4“Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.”
Woah! Words are LIFE-GIVING.
Proverbs 16:24 “Kind words are like honey–sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”
Words are a big deal. When I look on sensitivity and meekness as a flaw, I am demeaning the power of words. But the Bible repeatedly tells us words can satisfy and refresh, or words can wound and destroy.
Being sensitive allows one to feel and to feel deeply. Showing emotions is a sign of strength and courage. Sensitivity allows the simple things to be enjoyed and appreciated.
Really, sensitivity goes hand in hand with empathy, gentleness, and meekness.
For years, I’ve apologized for being sensitive.
God has shown me how I can use my sensitivity to give people the encouragement that I thrive on. To care deeply for others’ trials and feelings. To channel that into the need to pray. To understand how people feel. To rejoice with them. To mourn with them. To appreciate all the details around me.
God has also revealed to me that since words are so impactful to me, that I should be all the more careful with what I say to others. Sensitivity is something we can use to be sensitive to others.
Billy Graham once said in a devotional of mine, “Meekness is not weakness.”
A biblical definition of meekness is “strength under control.”
In other words, God’s strength imparted to us to feel, be kind and humble, loyal and honorable.
If you are meek and sensitive, stop apologizing for this beautiful gift God has given to you!
Sensitivity and meekness do not mean you let people run you down. It is exhibiting strength under control. Kindly and honorably standing up for yourself and what is right.
Here is an impactful quote by A. W. Tozer:
The meek man is not a human mouse afflicted with a sense of his own inferiority. Rather he may be in his moral life as bold as a lion and as strong as Samson; but he has stopped being fooled about himself. He has accepted God’s estimate of his own life. He knows he is as weak and helpless as God declared him to be, but paradoxically, he knows at the same time that he is in the sight of God of more importance than angels. In himself, nothing; in God, everything. That is his motto.
So friends, meekness is not weakness. Sensitivity is not a flaw. God is our strength and these are our gifts. Thankful the Lord has given me new perspective and invigorating encouragement!