Recently, my heart has been stirred towards the topic of confidence. I feel it is a topic of vital importance this day and age. So let’s get this conversation started, shall we?
Our society tells us, there’s one way to look. One body type. One type of nose. One height. One beautiful. Then society tells us–“It’s okay if you don’t fit that one mold! There’s a surgery for that.” Basically–you’re not normal if you don’t look a certain way, but you can “fix” these things.
I’m so thankful I have the Lord in my life. God is a Master Artist. The Creator. And He LOVES His creation. Through His strength and love, I can have confidence. Youthful confidence. A kick off your shoes, run around a field, kind of confidence. A joyful confidence that radiates from the inside, out! He made me and He loves me.
I asked 3 darling women, “How do you embrace confidence?”I know it to be so encouraging hearing Godly insight and wisdom, taken from people’s lives and stories. So here are their answers.
I didn’t steal this from Pinterest, but it may sound like it at first:
The way I embrace confidence is by embracing God.
Something I feel God has been downloading on me lately is that godly confidence is so much greater than self-confidence. The struggle of “Am I pretty enough?” and “Am I worthy enough?” and “Are my body dimensions ‘right’?” are all cultural questions because culture believes self reigns supreme.
But from a godly perspective, God reigns supreme, so the place we put our confidence should be in Him.
There’s a verse that has been so present in my life lately. Here’s the summary:
In my weakness, He is strong. (2 Corinthians 12:9)
So rather than “I’m confident that I’m good enough to enjoy life, be blessed, be a blessing”, instead I want to say, “I’m confident that GOD is good enough for me to enjoy life, be blessed, and be a blessing.” I’m confident in His power at work through me that even in my weakness, He is strong. Even on days I don’t like what I see in the mirror, He is good. Even on days I look in the mirror and think, “I’m allllll that!”, He is good. Just as good as days I don’t like my image. THAT, to me, is a stable confidence. It isn’t swayed by emotions or body dysmorphia or my own performance. It’s a strong and steady confidence.
Personally, my waist line has grown and shrunk…several times over. A few years ago, I was obsessed with working out – I spent 8 hours each week at the gym. I was the skinniest, fittest, strongest I’d ever been. But when I looked in the mirror, I was the least confident I’d ever been. I was obsessed with my physicality because I was so ill confident that I was worthy of love. Nowadays, I work out a healthy amount, and I’m also heavier than I was back then. But when I look in the mirror, I see someone that God gave His Son to die for. I see someone worthy of love. I see someone who should be confident that my worth will never fade with time, age, wrinkles or cellulite. I’m confident I’m worthy, because God called me worthy.
Well in my opinion, I don’t feel confident when I rely or depend on myself. The way I feel confident is when I rely on the Lord and know that what I am and who I am is a child of God and that’s where my beauty comes from.
When I look at my outward appearance, I don’t feel confident or beautiful most of the times. But when I am reminded about how I am fearfully and wonderfully made by the one who created the entire Universe, that’s when I feel confident.
I embrace confidence by embracing myself for who I am and how God created me. The times when I feel the least confident is when I try to be something I’m not. When I try too hard to fit in or try too hard to look “beautiful” to cater to or impress a guy I like, I don’t end up feeling confident. But when I embrace who I am (which is an awkward, quirky person who loves Jesus) that’s when I feel the most confident.
There are many prettier pictures of me posing for a camera in good lighting to make me look beautiful, but I chose this picture because this picture was taken when I decided to fully be myself and make a pine tree crown and pose next to a Christmas tree because I love nature and I love Christmas. It’s a picture that shows off me as who I am and it shows my personality instead of just showing off another posed “pretty” picture.
Embracing confidence to me is only possible when I truly embrace my identity in Jesus Christ. It’s who He says that I am – forgiven, worthy, redeemed, wanted, and lovely – that gives me the confidence to face each day with a healthy balance of self-love and humility. Why both? Because embracing your confidence is not screaming “I AM BEAUTIFUL” at the world; instead, it’s a gentle whisper in the ear of those you encounter saying, “I’m lovely, and so are you.” ❤
Thankful for the beautiful wisdom these women have shared, and I pray you are blessed and encouraged!