Perched on my couch, I write to you with tea in hand and a smile upon my face. This post is written in honor of Billy and I’s upcoming 3 year wedding anniversary. Mmmm God is so good. He’s blessed me so beyond what I deserve. I will forever thank the Lord for the man that He has given me.
Talking about love and marriage always inspires me to share the wisdom I have gained through the years. Finding the one looks different for everyone. Everyone traverses a different path. A different distance. A unique journey. But God is near and He wants you to trust Him.
I believe we all desire love. Many people desire a forever love. A spouse. I believe God put that desire in us. It’s a good desire. It is from Him. Trust Him, follow Him, serve Him, and KNOW that He will provide.
Finding the one seems like a mystery. Until you meet the one. haha. I know it’s cliche, but the saying is true–When ya know, ya know. But, hindsight is 20/20. So here’s my insight on how you know you met the one.
- You can be yourself.
I remember when I first met Billy. One of the things I kept saying to myself was, “Wow, I can be my complete self around him.” It was astounding. Like nothing I had ever experienced before. I didn’t have to tame my silly side. He liked me. For me. My goofy, happy, loud-laughed, music-loving self. We were able to really embrace who we were. There were no fronts. No performances. Just us. And that is SO important.
2. You have the same values.
I remember when Billy first told me he liked me, we were sitting on the beach at John’s Pass. We realized our time together was headed towards relationship. Billy asked, “Can I pray for us?” That’s when I knew, this was different. This was something beautiful.
I can’t stress this one enough. You can have different hobbies. You can have the same hobbies. That really doesn’t matter, as long as you support each other. What matters is that your values and beliefs, are the same. Billy and I are both Christians. We believe that we are sinners (duh, we’ve all done crap), that the payment for sin is death, that Jesus paid that price for us on the cross, and conquered death 3 days later so we can go to heaven when we die. Billy and I have a relationship with each other, but first we have a relationship with GOD. If your values are not the same, the relationship is not worth pursuing.
3. There is so much peace.
I am a firm believer that God reveals His will for us through His peace. I had never experienced such peace in my entire life. There was no turmoil. No constant battle. Just peace. It felt right. It felt good.
4. Everything is simple.
Now, life isn’t always simple, but we humans tend to overcomplicate things. A right relationship shouldn’t feel like constant tug of war. This goes back to there being peace.
When Billy and I were dating, we typically drank tea and watched movies when he would come over. One day he told me the moment he knew we were going to get married. “We were drinking tea, and it was the happiest, yet simplest moment of my life. I knew I wanted to drink tea with you forever.”
Being with the one isn’t about some over-planned, highly orchestrated moment. It’s about simple, real, life moments.
I hope you enjoyed my little nuggets of wisdom. Most importantly, remember the One who loves you more than any human ever could. So much so, that He died for you.
Psalm 143:8: “Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.”